Just got home from meeting you for the 1st time.  What a spirit-filled blessing!  
   Your analogy is good.  As 1 Corinthians says, we (Christians) are all members of Christ’s body, and there is to be unity.  
   I believe that there is a major obstacle here with authority.  In our culture, we have been encouraged and trained to believe that each of us is our own authority, and then, perhaps, our boss at work, then the secular government.  If any of them are ok with something, it’s ok.  
   We at church are a gathering of little bosses who answer to: whom?
In order to accomplish God’s work, including building up the body to maturity in order to do the work of the ministry, there must be authority.  It is that way at work.  It is that way in our political structure.
   Yet, at church, who is fulfilling this role?  We can choose what sunday school class to go to, what meetings we will go to.  Etc.  Yet, the Bible says Christ is our head.  And we are leery, with good cause, as to letting some man dictate to us the details of our lives.  
   And, how could someone truly wise and loving guide us in good choices if he did not know us well.  Here, I think, is a major problem to tackle.  Our leaders do NOT know us.  And there is no plan nor structure for that relationship to happen.  This is the problem with having godly authority.  A surface connection with no reality behind it. That would be very costly, and perhaps we know this instinctively.  Perhaps this is why it is not happening
   Paul, somewhere in one of his epistles, said that in one of his congregations, he “labored night and day”, crying over them, and with them, “until Christ was formed in” them.
   I’m looking for this kind of leadership.

God bless,
Tom